How to get out of the rabbit hole: ways to get rid of loneliness (20 photos + 2 videos)

New Year is a family holiday. But what if you don’t have it or are far from your family?





And although the rumor that most suicides occur during the holidays is a myth, the long New Year holidays are not easy for all singles.



What to do if you are left alone on a family holiday? It won’t always be possible to go to work, and it won’t always be possible to run away to meet friends, because they may have their own plans for these holidays. A person is left alone with himself.





Should I run to the Internet and create the illusion of company, or is there another way?



First of all, you must decide whether this is loneliness or whether you are temporarily left alone with yourself.



As with any problem, the first step is to identify it. Left alone, you can ask yourself the right questions and get the answers you need.



Research has found that excessive shopping can be a sign of loneliness. Therefore, you can review your recent purchases to understand the root cause.



Of course, you can buy according to need, but scientist Rick Peters conducted a study that shows that lonely people often fill the void with material things.



Binge watching TV series or movies? Can't live without the next episode and because of this you fall asleep after midnight? This may be due to your loneliness or depression. Although they often go in pairs. A 2015 University of Texas study found a correlation between binge-watching and loneliness.



In 2011, scientists from South Dakota conducted an experiment in which one hundred volunteers took part. The study tried to identify the relationship between sleep disturbance and the social status of the subjects. Those who live alone tend to have trouble sleeping. True, this does not mean that these things are directly interconnected.



But a series of studies done in 2013 found that lonely people, due to a lack of human communication, make up for it with warmth from hot water. Yes, lonely people like to spend long periods in the bathroom and it's not what you think. A hot bath and shower can improve your overall well-being. Hot water not only improves blood circulation and relieves stress after a hard day at work, but also helps improve sleep. Yes, yes, the previous sign of loneliness.



Man is a social being, it is inherent in our nature. Thanks to living in society, a person develops immunity, which helps him get sick less. Living alone has a negative impact on health; due to weak immunity, lonely people are more likely to get sick.



In 2010, studies were conducted that found that loneliness can be contagious. People are characterized by empathy, so some people, in an attempt to help and sympathize with their loved ones, can become “infected” with loneliness. Therefore, if there are a lot of lonely people around you who complain to you about loneliness, then you may also encounter this problem.

If all the signs match you, then you may be single. At the same time, as you understand, you can be lonely even in a social circle.



Now that the problem is known, let's try to deal with it.



Visualization is the next step on the path to psychological recovery. A diary, letters to yourself or an imaginary friend will do. You need to share your thoughts sincerely and on an ongoing basis for therapy to start working.



For creative people, writing paintings, music or poetry is suitable. You need to throw out your problem.

Therapy should not be the only tool in the fight against loneliness. In order to get rid of problems, you need to start changing your life.

Live in the moment



The grass was greener before and you weren't alone. Stop dreaming about the past, you need to live in the present. What is happening now is much more important, stop feeling sorry for yourself.

It's time to come out of the cocoon



It's time to build community connections. Slowly, take small steps, but in the right direction. You need to get rid of the illusion that the Internet can replace live communication. It can be a tool, but ultimately a meeting. Make small requests to people, look for like-minded people, and then build friendly relationships with them.

Self-development



No one is interested in communicating with people whose range of interests is negligible. In order for society to accept you as part of it, you have to give something to it. Study, discover new things and improve to become an interesting conversationalist. In addition, in foreign language classes you can meet people with at least one common interest.

And going to the gym will not only help you improve your physical fitness, but will also serve as a platform for social communication.

Most importantly, remember that when communicating with strangers you need to maintain a positive attitude. Starting with your immediate problems is not the best option.

Solitude shouldn't be your prison.



Dealing with loneliness does not mean always looking for company and being surrounded by people. You need to learn to spend quality time with yourself. The desire to develop can help with this: jogging in the fresh air or reading books. The main thing is that your solitude brings you benefit and pleasure.

Get rid of the false addiction of online communication



When they say that social networks and the Internet are evil, people are lying. It's about the amount of time you spend spending on social networks.



These are not all the steps towards living in harmony with society, but they are the easiest to take.